Funerals honor the dead and comfort the living. In the wake of loss, fulfilling your obligation to such a high feels overwhelming. Perhaps it’s why you’re reading today’s article.
Take solace in the fact you aren’t alone. Many others have faced the challenges of planning an elegant funeral. When a Quora user asked others for their funeral planning experiences, Matthew Bates answered,
I’ve planned three funerals in the last seven years: my sister, my father, and my grandmother. If you’re in the US, a funeral home is your best bet. The funeral director there will walk you through everything…
Working with a funeral director is a lot like working with a wedding planner. You just make a bunch of choices when they present you with different options. Most of your job is saying yes or no, this or that, and paying for it all.
But some can’t afford expensive packages, while others still want to know what to expect. If you fall into either category, you’re reading the right article.
Step #1: Choose Burial
The three most common burials include: gravesite, above ground sepulchre, and cremation. It’s easier to start with this decision because it can inform other aspects of the planning process.
Step #2: Create a Service
You can plan a service in many unique ways, but these are a few decisions you’ll make for a more traditional planning process:
- Who will officiate?
- Do you want any poems, prayers or passages read? If so, by whom?
- What music would you like played?
- Will you do a catered or potluck-style food?
- Who are the pallbearers?
- Do you want specific personal touches? (E.g. memory board, memorial video, etc.)
There are, of course, more decisions. However, this should provide a solid outline.
Step #3: Reflect With Joy
Funerals are a time of mourning. But the most elegant services make time to positively reflect on the deceased life. For those who lived a good life, finding joy in the sadness isn’t as hard as it seems.
Insert quirky quips into the eulogy, show funny photos in the memorial slideshow… Just find ways to infuse their personality into it. You’ll be amazed by the comfort a bit of laughter brings.
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